To the young lady who.........

To the young lady who post pictures of herself on social media hoping to get likes and comments for an ego boost, this is for you, with love. You matter, my friend.

Are you posting pics hoping your peers will be jealous of you? Do you post them hoping boys will take notice of you? Is it the need for validation from others to make you feel better about how you look? And what happens if you don’t get the comments and likes you’re hoping for? You may end up feeling worse than you did before you posted that picture. The question I ask you is, how do you see yourself? Do you love yourself? Stop measuring your self-worth in likes and followers, and definitely don't measure your self-worth by what someone else thinks of your "selfie."

When posting a picture of yourself do it for fun and not for the sole purpose of self-validation. Comments and likes won't determine your happiness or your success in life. When posting, do it with confidence and think of it as a timeline of your life's journey.

I know that sometimes a “good” selfie can lift your self-esteem. But for some it may be a cry out for attention. With that being said, be mindful of others who post, because like the ole’ Disney movie “Bambi” reminds us of the words of Thumper's mother, "If you can't say somethin' nice, don't say nothin' at all." If you do decide to comment make sure you represent yourself in a classy way and again be mindful of others feelings. Bring encouragement and inspiration to your comment. Lift your fellow sister‘s self esteem.

Remember those who are nasty to others are really hurting inside and are yearning for attention. Be the bigger person and give them positive attention. Kindness is not a sign of weakness, because it’s easy to be mean, but it takes great strength to compose yourself and use intelligence to respond in a positive way to a negative situation.

So go on and LOVE YOURSELFIE!! 💚

If you're struggling with an eating disorder, call the National Eating Disorder Association hotline at 1-800-931-2237.

Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.


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